quick start guide and free e course available below nationally recognized marriage expert reveals you can save your marriage starting today even if you are the only one interested with my radical approach to marital rescue this may be your last chance to save your marriage don t damage your relationship furthe r by listening to amateur advice or dated ineffective professional advice and you can get started saving your marriage in the next 10 minutes from lee h baucom ph d lee baucom ph d has been a consultant for dateline nbc and has been featured in national magazines for his unique and effective approach to saving marriages creator of save the marriage click to hear a message from dr baucom what brought you to this page does thinking about your marriage cause you tension and anxiety are you tired of endless fights anger and disappointment have you tried everything else are you feeling as if divorce may be inevitable or do you desire to make your marriage happier stronger and better than ever before if so you have come to the right place my name is lee baucom i am a professional family and marriage counselor with almost twenty years of experience working with couples that are struggling in their marriages i created this site because i was shocked at the amount of useless save your marriage advice that is being offered online i m not sure which is worse the amateur counselors that are selling unproven and untested save your marriage guides or the professionals that are still pushing dated and and potentially damaging methods and approaches i know what works and what doesn t early in my career i was guilty of trying some of the same tired ineffective techniques that you will find in the vast majority of save your marriage guides and most therapists offices but years ago i became frustrated with the poor success rate of these traditional approaches and created and developed techniques and approaches that were completely different and radical fortunately for my clients and you these new techniques have proven to be significantly more effective than any other approach you may have heard of me on dateline nbc or in a national magazine like men s health because of the success of my approach most professionals see a success rate of no more than 20 in saving marriage relationships the success rate in my practice approaches 90 it is no accident that you found this page everything happens for a reason please read the letter below it may be the most important letter you ever read faithfully lee baucom ph d author of save the marriage from lee h baucom ph d free e course you can receive our free e course with just your name and email your first name your e mail address note we hate spam as much as you do we never rent sell trade or otherwise disclose your email address date thursday 07 03 2008 let me tell you about kelly and greg when i first met kelly she and her husband greg were literally driving to the attorney s office to sign their divorce papers when they decided to stop at my office they were ready to end their marriage of 14 years for some time years actually neither had been happy there had been attempts to change but things always fell apart it had been years since either kelly or greg felt good about their relationship in fact for some time they had stayed together just for the kids does this sound familiar to you there was much sleeping on the couch and in the spare bedroom they were constantly battling over the smallest issue which only led to bigger issues threats and yelling were an almost everyday thing they both desperately wanted to be accepted and loved but neither felt it the more each tried it seemed the further they moved apart they had tried therapy self help books seminars but nothing seemed to make a difference it seemed as if they were stuck in a vicious cycle they knew they needed to change things in their relationship but they just didn t know how i m not going to convince you that i was able to undo years of fighting struggling and disappointment in a day but with what they learned in my office that day they decided to put their impending divorce on hold within a few weeks there was a dramatic transformation in their marriage there were no angry arguments that went nowhere there was no living like roommates or sleeping on the couch there was no name calling or tearing down of each other their previously sexless marriage saw sparks of true pleasure and intimacy again last week kelly called to invite me to their anniversary and re commitment ceremony most marriage therapists are not trained to be marriage counse lors they receive their training in traditional individual therapy and add marital counseling to their practice after the fact in other words most marriage therapists have little expertise in helping a troubled marriage and when they do offer marital counseling they are usually applying outdated ineffective strategies that were never intended to help truly troubled marriages this is why the best marriage counselors see a success rate of only 20 if a medical procedure was that risky it would be outlawed i know from experience because i too was frustrated with such a low rate of success i sincerely desired to help my clients to save their marriages but the techniques and strategies i learned in school seemed to be making things worse once i realized that traditional methods of marriage therapy don t work i determined to find and create strategies techniques and methods that do work it led me to abandon much of the old school ideas about how to help troubled couples and so should you before you can begin your journey toward saving your marriage you need to stop buying into the four most damaging myths about saving your marriage do you believe any of the following the 4 most damaging myths about saving your marriage myth 1 you need to learn more communication skills learning new communication skills will not help you teaching you how to communicate better if your marriage is truly troubled will only give you and your spouse the ability to fight more effectively in many cases improving communication skills only creates more damage and accelerates the deterioration of the relationship myth 2 there is only one path from the brink of divorce to marital bliss many other programs assume there is only one path back to marital happiness i discovered there are 8 distinct paths and each path must be addressed differently what is helpful at one stage can be destructive or at least counterproductive at another stage i have created a unique path for each stage that resolves the crisis best these paths have been tested and retested and proven successful for hundreds in my practice you will learn how to determine exactly which stage of marriage crisis you are facing after you do this you are infinitely better prepared to move forward and begin the healing and progress myth 3 you can t start saving your marriage if your spouse isn t interested when a marriage crisis is in full swing it sometimes takes awhile for the other spouse to respond but this does not mean that you can t save your marriage my techniques and approach work even if your spouse has already given up my strategies have been called relationship judo you will learn how to use the negative energy in your relationship to turn your relationship around myth 4 time heals all this may be the most damaging myth of all in my experience many people procrastinate and hope that things will get just work themselves out this rarely if ever happens you already know that that is the reason you are at this site you are ready to take action if you do not take action the negative momentum of the relationship moves against you and before you know it the relationship is too far gone it is critical that you start the process of saving your marriage now before things spiral into a place that is truly irreparable anyone is capable of transforming their relationship impossible as it may seem i have created techniques which transform relationships even when only one person is trying my typical client is a spouse that wants to save their relationship when their partner has already given up most therapists work from the assumption that if only one person wanted to work on the relationship it was impossible to fix i don t approach marriage crises this way i approach them like an algebra equation if one side of the equation is changed the other side must change incredibly my clients have achieved a better than 90 success rate even if only one spouse starts the process with kelly and greg it was kelly who started the process she found me on the internet downloaded save the marriage and began the process of saving the marriage by herself greg was still bent on a divorce but kelly still had hope and took action fairly quickly greg was less insistent on the divorce but still assumed it was their only option eventually he agreed to spend that hour with me in person leaving their divorce attorneys waiting you may be wondering when is saving the marriage impossible i have witnessed relationships come back to life after affairs bankruptcies dishonesty deception and mid life crises and just about any other roadblock couple after couple have proven that it is possible to change a relationship and rescue just about any marriage from the edge of destruction these couples have not just avoided divorce they have transformed the marriages into something wonderful something better than they had dreamed possible anatomy of a marital crisis no marriage crisis appears overnight rather the crisis builds slowly over time one person is usually caught completely off guard not realizing there even was a problem the other claims that he or she is tired of trying and trying with no change and has given up you see the real damage is done when one person needs and expects something to change but the other person is preserving the exact same things for example there is often a desire for a shift in the power structure of the relationship but one person resists making any change the other person who wants the change becomes more and more frustrated this leads to a pattern where one spouse suddenly announces that the marriage is over and the other spouse is unaware that there even was a problem if i had a dime for every time i was told i thought everything was fine until my spouse asked for a divorce unfortunately the not knowing has been translated into not caring by the dissatisfied partner and seems to provide proof for someone looking for proof that the marriage is over more marriages die from neglect than anything else often it is simply a matter of life getting in the way strangely something as important as marriage gets ignored more than that the relationship shifts from suffering with neglect to a growing animosity and antipathy on our wedding day no one expects their marriage to fail and when people rate their priorities their marital relationship always ranks in the top 3 or 4 but according to research couples spend on average less than 4 minutes per day talking about issues that do not include schedules and the kids as neglect sets in this lack of attention eats away at the relationship slowly eroding the capacity of the couple to form a substantial relationship at this point it is inevitable that issues will arise that create marital crisis the issue may be another person a job change a shift in life circumstances or stage when it comes one or the other feels the hopelessness of the situation and moves to resolve the crisis by getting out of the marriage the stages of a crisis when the crisis is in full swing it sometimes takes awhile for the other spouse to respond but i discovered you can use actually this fact to create a path back to wholeness too many other programs treat the way back to happiness as only one path i believe there are 8 distinct paths and each must be dealt with completely differently what is helpful at one stage can be destructive or at least counterproductive at another stage i have created a unique and different path for each stage these paths have been tested and retested and proven very successful for my clients this is not pie in the sky theory it is tried tested and re tested it is critical you know which stage you are in before you begin making changes it is entirely possible to do the right thing at the wrong time and cause more problems you need to know exactly which stage of crisis you are facing only then can you begin the healing process otherwise it is probable you will inflict further damage on your relationship the innocent beginnings of a crisis neglect lack of understanding etc can quickly spin into a crisis that puts the entire marriage at risk at this point the trajectory of the relationship can become unpredictable but the path back is predictable a marriage can fall apart in a million ways but a marriage only recovers in one predictable way there is only one path back the specific steps on that path may vary depending on the stage but the way back is the same this is the emphasis of my work the path back i have isolated the path back from the verge of destruction all of the way to full recovery of a marriage you can t just take the relationship back to where it used to be this is not enough couples cannot simply get back to where they were when the marriage got in trouble the marriage always had the beginnings of a crisis instead it needs to get to a place where the marriage is insulated against any future crisis achieving an average marriage isn t enough you want and need an exceptional marriage it s not just about avoiding divorce it s about creating the marriage relationship of your secret dreams it s not enough to avoid divorce who wants to be in a mediocre marriage relationship most couples believe that their marital problems mean that they are destined to at best have an okay marriage this could not be further from the truth you don t have to settle for anything less than the marriage relationship of your dreams in my experience your current marriage crisis can be the catalyst for a new beginning that will make your marriage stronger and better than it has ever been in fact this is my true goal i won t feel satisfied unless as many couples as possible are experiencing everything that they always expected from marriage recovery to average is not good enough i have helped hundreds of couples to rescue and transform their marriages and i want to help thousands more to create exceptional marriages this is why i recently sat down and wrote a new book save the marriage as i said earlier in this letter i was shocked to see that there were so many virtually useless save your marriage guides offered online unlike my book most of these guides are written by ghost writers that are hi ding behind a pretty picture i am a real live person that you can actually contact see the bottom of this page and the guides written by actual professionals are for the most part based on tired old and ineffective traditional theories of counseling that only achieve 20 effectiveness when used in person in a therapist’s office i felt as if i had to make available the unique different and most importantly effective secrets that i had discovered in my practice my goal is to save as many marriages as possible chances are you will probably not have the opportunity to visit me in person but i can still provide you with the information and the assistance you need to really start saving your marriage through save the marriage together through save the marriage and the included email consultation we can save your marriage save the marriage will give you an understanding of what happened to your marriage how to save it and how to start creating the marriage of your dreams you will benefit from my nearly twenty years of working with clients in person and literally thousands of couples in various settings don t expect hundreds of pages that just reiterate what everyone else has already said instead i have made the ideas and information readable and easily understood no psycho babble here just the facts ideas and actions you need to save your marriage in 170 pages i will tell you what went wrong what to do to change it and how to do it starting tonight in fact in the next 10 minutes you can start saving your marriage and moving toward the marriage relationship you always dreamed about can you imagine how wonderful it feel to finally eliminate the fear anxiety and stress that currently envelopes you and replace it with feelings of love joy and contentment you don’t have to imagine it because with the secrets and strategies you will find in save the marriage you will be solidly on the path from marital frustration to marital bliss don t take my word for it a small sample of what others have said about this book what others are saying just a few of the hundreds of notes provided to us all telling us the same thing this material works a terrific resource i have been reading the first few chapters and am very relieved to find such a terrific resource it really fits with the direction i ve been taking personally and with clients sally f therapist a dramatic turn around what a dramatic turn around our relationship is 180 degrees reversed and moving in the right direction thank you so much nancy t radically different i finally have hope my marriage has been in trouble for years i ve read the other books your ideas are radically different from the others i ve never read anything like it now things are improving i finally have hope brad r i am amazed a whole new outlook i sat and read your book last night i read from about 7pm to 12am i am amazed after reading i have a whole new outlook on our marriage after reading i am prepared to make the necessary changes and shifts in order to have the marriage i ve always wanted mary beth m wow convinced in the very first chapter i recently purchased your package save the marriage and spent the last week reading it i don t know how to express how i feel about it other than to just say wow i was convinced within the very first chapter as i could see the truth of it in my own life and relationship anthony j my relationship is much better for the record let me just say that your book is the most sensible real self help book of any kind that i have ever read these things that you talk about in your book are real so simple they just make sense my relationship with my husband has gotten so much better thank you thank you thank you robin r he actually left i m 41 years old and my husband has recently told me that he wanted out of the marriage and he actually left a few days later after 21 years of marriage after the initial shock wore off and i was able to think straight i purchased your book i was able to persuade him to give me and the marriage another chance i had to wing it with only your strategies in my head many many thanks for your book georgia read more comments by clicking here just some of what you ll discover the top 5 mistakes people make when a crisis arises the real secrets to a healthy stable loving marriage how to assess the stage of your crisis there are 8 how to address any stage of a crisis and turn it around what to do what to say and what to avoid in order to save your marriage why hard work on the relationship isn t always the answer how marriage counseling can be dangerous to your marriage s future why low mood therapy is destined for failure and how high mood relating makes the difference how to move beyond emotions and take action how to find the north star of your relationship and why it matters why true intimacy is a lot closer than you think and how to get there what the tie elements of communication are and how they can transform your communication how to change the momentum of a relationship sometimes instantaneously what the practices of marriage are and how they can transform your relationship why arguing is a waste of time and the amazingly simple secret to get around it how to become a team even if you feel like opposites why power is so destructive to relationships and how to change it how to deal with problems involving sex or money how to make paradigm shifts literally quantum leaps in the relationship much much more about how to transform your relationship how to begin saving your marriage beginning in less than an hour maybe in less than 10 minutes in short how to have the marriage of your dreams here s my offer try the secrets in save the marriage then at your leisure utilize its secrets to save and transform your marriage if you are not absolutely thrilled with the dramatic improvements in your marriage just let me know and i ll promptly and courteously refund 100 of your money with no questions asked for an entire 60 days your only requirement is to use the material for a full 30 days just to see the power of the simple secrets that’s it give it your best shot then i 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not some ebook that has nothing to do with marriage my bonuses will guarantee you success plus bonus 1 free email consultation 95 00 value my standard rates for counseling are 200 per hour standard email consults are 95 00 for a limited time i am including a free email consultation every marriage situation is different this email consultation will give you the ability to put it all together after reading save the marriage you will have the opportunity to ask me specifically any questions that you may have bonus 2 the quick start guide to saving your marriage report i have taken my stage of crisis diagnosis and converted it into a very powerful report that will help you to establish exactly which stage of crisis your marriage is currently in it will then prescribe a path to recovery based on that particular stage this report will make your efforts immediately effective bonus 3 the top five things not to do when your partner wants out report if your partner has told you that they want 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